Networking doesn’t have to feel like collecting business cards or sending awkward DMs. The best networks are built through consistent, low-pressure relationship-building—and a repeatable system you can stick with even when you’re busy.
Many people treat networking like a one-time transaction: “I need a job—who can help?” That approach often leads to silence.
Instead, think of networking as a 3-step loop:
Use this as your default plan:
Pick three people to reach out to (new or existing). Keep it simple:
Tip: Aim for warm relevance, not status. The best connections are people adjacent to your target role/team.
Value doesn’t mean huge favors. Try:
Rule: Keep it lightweight and specific—one screen of text max.
Move beyond the first message:
“Hi [Name]—I noticed you moved from [X] to [Y]. I’m exploring [target area] and your path stood out. Could I ask you two quick questions about what mattered most in that transition? Happy to keep it async if easier.”
“Thanks again for the insights on [topic]. My key takeaway was [specific]. I’m focusing on roles in [narrow target]. If you know anyone who’d be open to a quick informational chat (not a referral request), I’d appreciate an intro—totally optional.”
Track just three things weekly:
Consistency beats volume. Ten solid relationships can outperform 300 shallow connections.
If you tried the “3x3 Networking Routine” for two weeks, which part would be easiest for you—and which part would you struggle with most?
This is a strong, realistic framework—especially the emphasis on “quality conversations” over message volume. One way to make the 3x3 even stickier is...
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